Are daughters being taught to be mothers? Are they developing a love for babies? Are they learning how to be mothers by example? Are singles preparing to be mothers now? Are they seeing motherhood as their career for the Kingdom?
Why do I ask such questions? Because I feel concerned.
I walk the streets at events and I see 9-12 year olds dressed like 18-year-olds with makeup and toting around big iPhones in their hands. I rarely ever see a little girl carrying a baby doll. I remember one of the ways I met one of my childhood friends. We were at a public event and she saw my baby doll I was carrying and she wanted to hold it and look at it. So her mother brought her over to meet me and we became friends over our love for dolls. ☺️
I have met young girls before who really dislike being around children. My heart breaks.
The God-created mothering heart that He puts in every young girl is somehow being squelched in our culture today. Purely from my own observation, it seems that the majority of girls in our culture will grow up and become mothers one day, but the majority of girls are training and working hard toward everything else but motherhood.
Does that make sense? Does that not just make you sad?
Titus 2:3-5…”The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
I feel for the girls who become mothers and are completely unprepared for it. Our culture does not promote motherhood as a lifelong career that you give your whole self too. I expect the world to behave in such a way, but it’s also taught in our churches and that is the most heartbreaking part. Motherhood has become a second or third option you do, off to the side, while you have your main career, which, by definition of Scripture is not motherhood. You can not have a career outside the home and still be a “keeper at home”. Being a keeper at home is your career! There are other versions that translate it to “worker at home”. The picture is not one of a wife laying around lazy at home. If we were to follow in the example Proverbs 31 gives us, we should seek to be industrious workers at home, being helpmeets to our husbands and training up the next generation for Christ. Are we not to be the light of the world? To live in a different way? To promote a Christ conforming lifestyle according to Scripture? It just boggles my mind why so many Christians turn away from conforming to scripture regarding motherhood and family.
Although I am not yet a mother, (I hope to be someday), I can not help but see this happening all around me; Christian girls becoming mothers who are not prepared nor ready to make motherhood their life career. They are not seeing motherhood as a life career for the Kingdom! They are not seeing that they get to raise up the next generation for Christ’s glory and that is a GREAT calling!!
My goal is to encourage single girls to prepare. Ask God to give you a mothering heart that loves children. Ask Him to help you see the need for godly motherhood. Ask Him to change your heart to see motherhood as a Kingdom call, not a lame option. I plead with you to search scripture yourself to find out what it says concerning motherhood and womanhood. We have a need for mother-hearts to come back again! The mothering heart that God Himself wants to grow and increase in you will be used in some way for the Kingdom regardless if you have children or not. You can be sure of that! Trust Him!
I do not write all this from my own experience as a mother. I write from observation and a desire to conform to Scripture. I write from a single girl position that wants to live out true femininity.
If you have any thoughts on the subject, please feel free to comment below. I do not desire to be a teacher. I want to stir edifying conversation!