We are now in what people are calling the 3rd wave of feminism and when I listen to the ideology behind this 3rd wave, I just can not align myself with its core beliefs. I will list my reasons below.
1. I believe the core of feminism is against God’s biblical design
It is very clear in Scripture that men and women were both created equally in the image of God and both have the same value and worth. But we were created distinct from each other with differing roles. One role is not above the other. Both roles are needed for a healthy family life to exist. We find that the woman was made to be a helpmeet to the man. The man was made to be the authority over the woman and children. He was to use that authority to protect, provide, lead, love and care for his wife and children just like Christ leads with authority in love over the church. The woman was given a womb to bear life. The man was commanded to work hard to provide. This is not to say that women don’t work hard and or can’t help with living costs. They can and should. Making things to sell or growing food for your family I think is awesome. Proverbs 31 is our example of this. I’ve grown up watching my mom cut food costs by cooking from scratch and decorating her home with thrifted pieces and it was actually really fun. All of this design and function should be praised and considered good. God thought it was good. He designed it this way. Feminism hates this design. They do all they can to destroy it and in doing so, they destroy both men and women.
“And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.”
2. Feminism helps men NOT be men
Men are put down and thought to be dumb. You and I have all heard the slander talk that goes on among women today.
“They just can’t do anything right.”
“I don’t need a man.”
“I can totally provide for myself.”
“I don’t need a man to open the door for me. Ugh!”
“Men are just dumb.”
“I can make it without a man.”
All said with rolling eyes and “I’m better” attitudes.
But then, real life happens.
I can totally agree with you that the lack of real men in our culture is scary and sad. I know that men are to blame. But really ladies, can we put the whole blame on them?
I tend to think not. Men have no motivation to be men. Why would they? They live in a culture of women who “don’t need them”. You may laugh at me, but it’s kinda scary true. If men are told repeatedly that they are not needed to provide, protect, love and lead…what else is for them to do?
So they head off to their fishing, sports, big trucks and guns and leave the women to fend for themselves.
But oh, we are suffering from it now! We need leaders. We need providers. We need the men’s strength. We need fathers. We need protectors. We need REAL men to stand up and defend us and our children. We need men who will stand for God, truth, and righteousness. Feminism feeds the man’s sinful urge to shrug off responsibility and the God-given authority to lead and provide for his family.
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of every woman is the man: and the head of Christ is God.”
1 Corinthians 11:3
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” Ephesians 5:25
“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.” Ephesians 5:28
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
1 Peter 3:7
3. It promotes an “I’m God” mentality
This is something I have been seeing in comments and on online videos. I have seen quotes like, “girls need to know they can do and be whatever they want”, “they deserve to rule the world”, “I can do whatever I want with my body”, “break all the rules” and etc. Women in the feminist movement today highly support abortion and Planned Parenthood. Men do not have the right by law to kill their unborn child, but women do. Women are made out to be the only ones who get to play God and make this horrible choice. Talk about unequal rights!
But no one deserves to rule the world or should.
God rules. We are His creation and we submit to Him. He makes the rules and if we love Him, we will follow them and be blessed. Feminism makes women think and feel as if they are their own little god and can do whatever suits them best.
“I am the Lord, and there is none else, there is no God beside me: I girded thee, though thou hast not known me:
That they may know from the rising of the sun, and from the west, that there is none beside me. I am the Lord, and there is none else.”
“If you love me, keep my commandments.”
4. Feminism destroys femininity
It may sound strange but really it does. The core of feminism is the idea that unless women can do all that men do, they are not worth anything. So lots of women are throwing off their femininity to live like and do what men are doing because that’s where they think they will be fulfilled. But when they do this it actually proclaims to the world that the man’s role is best.
I don’t agree with them! I love being a woman. I love the role of the woman according to God’s design. It’s beautiful and wonderful and very fulfilling! So for me to start living and acting like a man, only creates more masculinity in the world. If feminists were really against the so-called “male domination”, they should start acting like real women and embrace true godly femininity instead of trying so hard to be a man.
I read a story somewhere once, centered around the time when feminism was really taking off. I will be paraphrasing it, so please bear with me.
A woman got on a trolley car and it was full of men and there was not one empty seat. A man got up to offer his seat to the lady, but hesitated, and turned to ask the lady if she was one of those who touted women’s rights for this or that and wanted to be treated like men are treated. She said, “yes I am!” He sat back down, leaving her to stand up for the ride.
I think he got his point across.
Now, this is exactly what I don’t want happening, but it is happening. Men are not treating women with respect and honor. I long for male chivalry to become a thing again and men being gentlemen in honoring the woman with kindness and love. Sure, there will always be evil men who don’t treat a woman this way regardless. Sinners need a savior.
(Sidenote: Young girls, this is why it is very important not to rush into any relationship with any guy. Spend time and seek God’s guidance and parental leadership to find a truly godly man.)
We only harm ourselves more when we demand the same treatment as the men. Again, I don’t mean that women are less smart, less human or of less value. I mean that being a woman is different from being a man and they should be treated differently. We were created by God to be women who embrace godly femininity and we should be protected, cherished and provided for. Feminism wants women to be like men and I reject that!
5. Feminism is not Christlike
There is not much to say for this one. All you have to do is check out a few videos on youtube of the women rights rallies and you can hear and see the filth. All the dignity and worth of a meek and quiet spirit that God Himself values is not seen. No, far from it. Modesty in dress and in conversation is quite ridiculous in their eyes. As a Christian, I’m seeking to be and live like Christ. Simple as that, and nothing more. Christ was pure in conduct and in speech along with meekness and quiet strength. This new wave of feminism is very very crude and far beyond Christlikeness.
So there you have it. My 5 reasons for being against this new wave of feminism. My heart hurts so much with the breakdown of femininity and masculinity and I will, by the grace of God, fight against it and promote God’s Way and Truth for men and women. You may disagree and that’s fine. But I would encourage you to seek God and His Word on these matters and find His truth. I want to conform to His truth only and you should too.
May you press on to know!