I recently heard someone make this comment and it struck me. Could this really be the case?
What is the definition of insecure?
1. not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious.
2. not firm or set; unsafe.
So are women really uncertain and not firm or set in femininity?
Yes, I believe so and we can see it in our culture around us. Women have been told that their femininity is not good enough. We are told that to have worth and value and live significant lives, we must take on masculinity. These ideas have been pushed in our culture for a while now. Women are feeling uncertain as women. They are not set or firm in their femininity. The results of women not embracing, enjoying and being confident in their femininity are devastating.
Children without mothers.
Husbands without wives.
The church without women.
Our enemy hates masculinity and femininity and this is one of the ways he is destroying us. He wants women to become dissatisfied with being a woman and doing womanly things. He has done this through the feminist movement. Feminism has been yelling for a long time that being a woman is not good enough. No wonder women don’t feel confident as women.
Have you ever thought about it in this way before?
Women are so insecure about being a woman that they try to act like the men instead, by taking on responsibilities, orientation, roles, clothing, and careers that are masculine. A liberal professor even sees this happening and he, of course, doesn’t have a problem with it. But he basically said in an interview that for women to become successful in their careers they have to be tough, disagreeable and take on masculine traits to succeed.
So women become more like men for the sake of a job, because they will be competing against men.
What happens in the process?
Women are still not happy or fulfilled and our families suffer for it. Children do not need two dads. They need a mother and a father. The more the lines of masculinity and femininity are blurred, the more the children suffer. Why the rise of gender-confused children? Why the rise of homosexuality and transgenderism?
These blurred lines are hurting us more than we know.
The saddest part is that the church has bought into the lies as well.
God’s created design for femininity is good. Your femininity is what makes you a woman. You have a womb that bears life and your body produces milk to nurse and sustain a living child. Your biblical feminine responsibilities, demeanor, role, dress, and orientation are God-given and they set you apart from man.
Don’t dislike it!
Don’t throw it out!
Don’t buy into the lie that taking on masculine traits is what will make you strong and confident.
It’s a total lie.
Let the women who name the name of Christ stand up and say no more! We will follow our Creator!
God designed men and women and He alone knows how each one is to function in life. We should want to make Christ’s name great through our femininity.
When we follow God’s design for women, we will become fulfilled, happy, confident, certain and firmly set in life.
Isn’t that exciting?!
I would encourage you to read through the Bible and seek out what God says about men and women’s roles because they are different from each other. Let me give some verses to get started on.
Please remember, when you approach scripture, be careful to not come with an anti-god love-self culture filter on your eyes. Because what God designed He called good and the world calls His design bad.
I look over these verses and I have to ask myself, “Father, what do these mean?”
“Am I living these out in my own life?”
“How can I live these truths for your glory alone?”
We really must get back to His Word with a humbled mind, asking Him for help to understand His design.
Will you start?
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created he him: male and female created he them.”
“For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.”
1 Corinthians 11:7-9
“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.”
1 Timothy 2:9-15
“Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work.”
1 Timothy 5:10
“When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.”
2 Timothy 1:5
“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
1 Peter 3:1-7
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
May you press on to know!